What’s your ideal life? The answer is up in the air for many of my coaching clients. They just know that the life they have now isn’t the one they want.
Luckily, you don’t have to be stuck with the life you have now. You do have to be willing to change. Change your routine, your schedule, your friends (if they don’t want you to change), and maybe your salary and your expectations. Of yourself and others.
Most often, I ask, “Who do you want to be?” Almost everyone has an idea. Then comes the tricky part–“What did that person do to get there?” Because if you want that life, you can’t just step onto their stage, you have to scramble up the path. Most often, there is no short cut. You have to do the struggle part, the risk part, the fall-on-your-face-in-front-of-everyone part to get to the good part.
You can’t skip that part. If you do skip it, you’re stress dream will come true and you’ll climb up on stage and discover you aren’t wearing a stitch. Before the “ahhhh” comes the “grrrrr.”
I always smile at the people who know the Inner Hero book is out and say, “You are so lucky to have written a book.” Pssst. . .it wasn’t luck. It was getting up at 4:30 a.m. and crying when chapters didn’t work out and I had to start over and swearing I’d never write another book (yeah, the idea for book #3 is already running around my feet), and feeling overwhelmed and exhausted at the same time.
To have the life you want, you have to build it. From the ground up.
–-Quinn McDonald swears she will sign 1,000 books before she admits she may want to write another one.