Rest in Peace, Ruth

Ruth Bell Graham was 87 when she died, and she lived a life most women of today can’t imagine. Or don’t want to. At 21, she graduated from college and was set on returning to China, where she had grown up as the child of missionaries.

When Billy Graham asked her to marry him, it was with the admonition there would be no China. “Woman was created to be a wife and mother,” he told her. Today’s woman might have smacked him with a trout for that answer, but today’s Billy may not have used that quote, either. They lived in different times.

Ruth GrahamAnd that’s the point. For a woman who was a helpmeet and in the background, she was a powerful force who should be spotlighted for her own wisdom. She wrote 14 books and advised Billy Graham to keep him on the path to success. “Ruth kept Billy both loved and honest,” said Leighton Ford, brother-in-law to Billy, and also an evangelist.

it was Ruth who advised Billy to turn down an ambassadorship to Israel offered him by Richard Nixon, and Ruth who told Billy to decline endorsing Nixon for office. Perhaps she just didn’t think religion and politics were a good mix, perhaps she could see Nixon for the disgrace to the Presidency he would become.

Ruth focused on keeping Billy true to his gifts of public speaking and witnessing. William Maratin, Billy Graham’s biographer said, “Ruth knows who she is, while Billy is always auditioning.”

She was a force and a partner in the best sense of the word. Every day was not happy for her, but each day had a purpose. She was not a martyr, but she was, in a very big way, a feminist before her time.

–Quinn McDonald is a writer, certified creativity coach, and journaling instructor. See her work at (c) 2007. All rights reserved. Image: