“Hello. My name is Quinn. I am a recovering perfectionist”
Ummm. Now what? If you look at the tag cloud over on the left nav bar, you’ll see “Recovering Perfectionists” as a tag. And it’s teeny because there are so few posts in it. Not because I don’t swim in a sea of recuperation from my perfectionist problems, but because. . .well, the posts aren’t done yet. They aren’t quite good enough.
And that is a major problem of perfectionists–we’re procrastinators. We can’t put it up because it’s not perfect. So it never goes up. And then, of course, it’s not only not perfect, it’s nonexistent. Perfectionists often don’t show up. Not at work meetings, where they are present, but silent. Not at social gatherings, where they put in an appearance, but leave before something goes wrong. Often, not in their lives.
It’s easy, as a perfectionist, to stay behind the scenes. Come in after the fact. Point out what went wrong, how it should be fixed. We play “devil’s advocate” because it stalls the actual doing. After all, if we speak up, we might be wrong. It’s hard to be wrong afterwards, with 20/20 hindsight working for us.
OK, I’ll say it. Perfection is the death of good. You will never be perfect. Get over yourself. Being a perfectionist is nothing to be proud of, it’s something to get over. Because when you get out there and try, and fail, you become better. Closer to perfection. Yep, perfection is all about messing up. Join me in recovery.
Note: The next course “Journaling for Perfectionists” will be taught in person at Changing Hands Bookstore in Tempe, Arizona, from 6:30 p.m. to 8:30 p.m. It will be taught online in January. To ask questions or get put on the information list, write me at QuinnCreative [at] Yahoo [dot] com
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