Control and Change

Most people hate change. It makes them rethink their lives, their choices and maybe even start off in a whole new direction. Some change is bigger than others, of course, but all change creates a reaction. We can’t control change, but we can choose our reaction. The important part of change is that it is inevitable. We can’t control it, the more we struggle, the more we notice our own futility. I’ve seen people fight change as if it were a mugger. Change usually wins.

morning agaveThis morning I saw a great example of the inevitability of change. It helped a lot as a way of seeing how change works and what to look for.

On my morning walk, I noticed a house with a big blue agave surrounded by flowers. I don’t know the local flowers yet, but they look a lot like Greek Windflowers, or anemones. Because it was early morning, the yellow and orange flowers were closed like a fist. The area around the agave looked polka dotted.

Time passed, shadows shifted and change came. I drove by again at noon, and the flowers glowed from a block away. Fully open, they made the agave look smaller. The flowers opening is change, and inevitable. I could have yelled at them, but they would have still opened. I could have threatened them, could have said I’d bang my head on the sidewalk, blamed them for opening, but they would have opened anyway. They are plants and obey their nature.agave at noon

The gift of change is that we can see things from a new perspective. The cost of change is that it demands attention, and maybe more change. If we see the grass is too high, it has changed, and we may decide to mow the lawn, another change.

Change is a link in a chain of events. We may not control the links or the length, but we control the materials the links are made of. Choose your materials well.

–Images/Story: Quinn McDonald (c) 2008 All rights reserved. Quinn McDonald is a writer and trainer in communication topics. She is also a certified creativity coach.