We think of “happy” as good and every other emotion as not as good. Here’s what I learned today: being real is good, whatever “real” is.
I went to lunch with a new friend who feels like an old soul and a good friend already. She shared sad news with me, and I felt tears start up over her suffering. We chatted a bit about the blog, and then I told her about something I felt bad about–petty behavior on my part. How hard it is to give up envy, pettiness, and feeling bad about it.
She was supportive and understanding. I felt heard. And I suddenly realized the truth of Brené Brown’s quote:
A 12-year-old’s wisdom on fitting-in vs. belonging: “If I get to be me, I belong. If I have to be like you, it’s fitting in.”
At that lunch table, with this kind woman, I belonged to the group of flawed human beings who are working on themselves. It made my day.
It’s good not having to be perfect, or pretending. It’s hard enough work just being me. Being appreciated for that felt like a blessing.
Put down the perfection mirror and just show up. It does a soul good.
–Quinn McDonald is an art journaler and writer. She’s working on a book on the Inner Critic.