You’ve started your creative project. You are happy with it, for the most part. You decide to ask for a critque. Perhaps someone gets too enthusiastic. No one stops the critique which amps up into harsh criticism. You defend your project, then begin to believe the crticism. Then there is no more project.
The next time you start a project, you create your own criticism and the project never gets started.
Criticism is hard to handle right, and harder to survive. Martha Beck wisely says, “Criticism is an alluring substitute for creation, because tearing things down, unlike building them up, really is as easy as falling off a stump. It’s blissfully simple to strike a savvy, sophisticated pose by attacking someone else’s creations, but the old adage is right: Any fool can burn down a barn. Building one is something else again.”
If you want opinions, don’t ask for “feedback,” or a “critique.” Don’t open your creative work for random, unfiltered opinions. Don’t ask “tell me what you think,” or “what’s missing?” You really don’t want to know what otheres think. Instead, be specific. Even if you are the only one critiquing, be specific with your thinking.
What do you want the outcome to be? A next step? Ask, “What’s my next step to complete this landscape?” Not sure of your color balance? Ask, “Do I need to lighten the shadows to make this less gloomy?” Once the conversation starts, you can switch from closed-ended questions (those answered with one or two words) to open-ended questions (those that require a thoughtful answer or open a conversation.)
If you are asked to lead a critique, ask the artist what specifically she would like to know about. Color? Technique? Composition? Ask a few questions about what the artists was thinking and planning before you say anything. Listen to the intent, then work on content.
Building a barn is hard work. Contribute to the hard work, or step away.
—Quinn McDonald has a lot of torn down lumber for new creative projects.